What to wear for your boudoir shoot (even if you’re not comfortable in lingerie)
Let’s get one thing straight: you do not have to wear lingerie to have a sexy, empowering boudoir shoot.
Yes, we love a lacy bodysuit or a sexy matching set - but boudoir is about feeling confident and comfortable in your skin, not about fitting into someone else’s idea of “sexy.” So if the thought of lingerie makes you feel exposed, awkward, or just not like you, that’s totally okay. You’ve got options, and I promise you, they’re just as beautiful, bold, and badass.
Here are some ideas for what to wear for your boudoir shoot if you’re not feeling lingerie vibes:
An Oversized Shirt or Button-Down
A crisp white shirt, your partner’s work shirt, or a soft oversized tee? YES PLEASE. This look is effortlessly sexy and gives you that “just rolled out of bed but still a goddess” energy. Wear it off the shoulder, with bare legs, or slip your hands into the cuffs for a shy-but-seductive look.
A Cosy Knit or Jumper
If you’re more of a soft girl than a seductress, a chunky knit sweater or jumper can look absolutely dreamy. Think curled-up-on-the-sofa vibes with big socks and a messy bun. It’s cute, cozy, and still totally boudoir-worthy.
Your Favourite Everyday Outfit
Confidence is sexy — and if jeans and a crop top make you feel like you, bring them. We can play with unbuttoned denim, exposed skin, or movement in the fabric. Bonus points if it’s something that hugs your curves in all the right places.
A Bodysuit (That Doesn’t Feel Like Lingerie)
If you’re open to some lingerie-adjacent pieces, a stretchy bodysuit is a great middle ground. It’s like a one-piece swimsuit, but way comfier and often a lot more flattering. Choose something in black, nude, or a tone that complements your skin - and trust me, you’ll feel amazing.
A Silk Robe or Kimono
A silky robe is perfect for that “barely there” look without feeling fully exposed. You can wear it loosely draped, falling off the shoulders, or wrapped tight with a lace bralette peeking out. This is a great option for warming up into the shoot too.
Something Meaningful
Your wedding veil. His/her hoodie. A leather jacket. A keepsake necklace. Boudoir isn’t just about looking good — it’s about showing who you are. So if there’s something sentimental you want to bring, let’s use it. Those are often the most powerful images.
Nothing at All (But Don’t Panic)
Hear me out - implied nude doesn’t mean showing everything. We can pose you in a way that keeps you covered but still captures your natural beauty. Draped sheets, shadowy lighting, back turned to the camera, it’s artistic, tasteful, and completely up to your comfort level.
Final Thoughts
Boudoir is for every body, every style, and every level of confidence. Whether you show up in lacy lingerie or an oversized jumper, your session is about capturing what makes you feel powerful. There are no rules — just vibes, good lighting, and a whole lot of self-love.
So if lingerie isn’t your thing? Don’t stress. Let’s create something beautiful, your way.
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